neuroscience and social feeling

[Bud Weiss]

There are two prime examples of how to foster this in families and schools.
The first is all the work going on now in the Nurtured Heart appraoch which
you can learn about at www.energyparenting.com and the research page on
www.difficultchild. Progress achieved even in some of the most difficult
situations and clients is quite impressive and has gone on in thousands of
classrooms across the country now. And it is just really beginning though it
has been around as really available since the publication of the first book
*Transforming the DIfficult CHild* in 1998.  These skills are so easily
learned by anyone even remotely willing to look. They do not require the
services of a trained therapist or even a trained Nurtured Heart specialist
like myself in order to transform an child or a whole school.
The second is projects like the who I am makes a difference blue ribbon
project begun in 1983 now spread throughout the world into so many thousands
of organizations and schools. see the original story here
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuu4SfQGMe8&feature=PlayList&p=D460137850BA9D18&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=9
and then google Who I Am Makes a Difference or put it in as a search on
Youtube. You will be heartened.

Of course, Moreno's primary principals in Who Shall Survive and some of the
powerful early writings of Helen Jennings and Mary Northway let alone the
enormous work of my dear departed friend Joe Heart and others like Tom
Treadwell in their college level and above teaching and in the development
of sociometric software continue to reverberate in some classrooms around
the world bringing the truth of the importance of the social emotional
content being primary in the learning process anywhere.

Be well, Blessings all, Bud


On Tue, Jan 26, 2010 at 10:29 AM, Adam Blatner <ablatner at verizon.net> wrote:

>  Hi Regina,
>     You wrote: I am thinking, as I read your question, about sitting w/ my
> non-violent communication group and as people shared their authentic selves,
> made eye contact (though this is clearly cultural because some cultures do
> not do this) allowed themselves to connect to others, others responded by
> saying things like "I feel more connected to you now."
>
>    (AB: This line especially intrigued me!)   I've also felt continued
> reservation about a member of the same group even after he made himself more
> vulnerable, spoke from his heart rather than his head, as soon as he went
> back to his head and to his "story."
>
> AB: There are those---and I may be one, or at least on the border of
> this---whom others find painfully intellectualized. The capacity to "get out
> of one's head" may vary as a matter of temperament or social intelligence.
> This may be a spectrum, from the autistic to aspergers to nerdy to
> intellectualized to "normal" to socially more sensitive and adept.
>      People who are in one state of consciousness tend to wonder about the
> others: Can they will themselves to be different? My wife, bless her heart,
> is remarkably adept with people and conversations---though it psychically
> drains her a bit and she doesn't go out of her way to do it--- and I am
> amazed at how she can think of what to say while I'm still mulling over the
> meanings of three sentences back.
>
> I can't speak for your group member---there are many other variables
> possible. The fact that he wants to be in that group should count for
> something. I know I mean well, but I can be unintentionally insensitive at
> times.
>
>     The idea of offering social skills training groups for youngsters with
> Asperger's is becoming more popular. What about just granting some leeway
> for those of us who aren't that bad but not really socially adept, either?
>
>          Allee (my wife) does this by our agreeing to certain cues in
> communication, and that reminds me to look up at her on occasion when she
> needs it; or lower the tension in my voice, etc.
>
>    Warmly, Adam
>
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