Facebook

[Ivo Banaco]

Great post Adam. I certainly understand your concerns, as I've been very
skeptical too about all this new tools until now. Let me try to convince
you.
1- Facebook has different degrees of openness; for example if you do
register in facebook, you will decide your connections - being part of some
groups, personal friends, etc.

2- Anyone who tries to connect with you (e.g. friend request) normally knows
you. But the thing is that you will be the one to decide whether you want to
connect. For example, if I ask you to be my friend at facebook, you will
receive an e-mail with my request. Your answer could be: Yes, Ignore,
Respond later. The option "Ignore" will not be received by the requester, as
I understand this philosophy.

I think role demand is a very important issue and you are right to be wary
of that. But in this case the risk is minimum. The opportunity cost (a term
very dear to economists) is the learning availability and time, but this
tool is very easy friendly, believe me.

You also could promote for a wider audience all your work and your homepage.
Imagine that you are entering a virtual place with lots of saloons but with
the power to discriminate the places to be in and the persons you're
connecting with.

All the best,
Ivo

On Tue, Feb 17, 2009 at 6:15 PM, Adam Blatner <ablatner at verizon.net> wrote:

>  Dear all, I'm still wary. The last question is exactly the point: How
> many minutes a day gets diverted in this direction.
>        As life reorders my priorities, I might imagine a time, perhaps
> bedridden, where I might want to give this a priority, sustain my
> socialization and exchange of warm fuzzy strokes using this medium. I am all
> for people finding their most emotionally supportive networks, and there are
> trade-offs. But as someone noted, social networks have a strong role
> demand---translated as people who want and expect you to take the time to
> check in with them, check out what they've said, consider and respond.
>       One way to think about the target social atom is the people who might
> be called friends (in that your relations with them are friendly) and yet
> what amount of time and how often do you want to delegate to this
> relationship? If you're lonely and wondering if anyone knows you exist or
> cares---and I've been there when I was younger--- it seems that one can
> never have too many friends.
>        Role demand---what a great phrase.
>               It gets us thinking--or me, at least---how much time will I
> be willing to share with whom?
>      Relationships use time as food.
>         And some are close and sustaining (if you're lucky); and some are
> medium- or not-so-close, but still sustaining in a way.
>             Different kinds of sustaining, too.
>
>         Some of my social needs are satisfied at the medium -cordial
> -acquaintance level participating in wholesome activities, types of dancing,
> singing, etc. A few with more conversation, but occasionally, a few more
> than occasionally,
>
>    There are role demands of neighbors, based on your common concerns or
> living near each other
>             of extended family, with many variations in levels of tele
> about this or that aspect, common interest, sometimes only having your
> kinship and past family history as the commonality   mix with various levels
> of reciprocity
>        e.g., my family is generally not very reaching-out or taking
> initiative to me, but occasions---weddings, funerals, etc.-- may evoke an
> invitation...
>              and permutations and nuances are plentiful.
>
>        What about discovering old friends?  Well, there is one I might want
> to contact, see what became of him; varying degrees---generally low
> levels---of interest in others. This may vary with how close those relations
> were way back...
>
>        But up against all this is the fact that I find my life pleasantly
> full with edges not-infrequently into overly full. So as I say, I'm wary
> about new commitments.
>
>          As for the sub-group Ivo and Ed and others talk about---what would
> happen or has already begun to happen that would either benefit me or that I
> could make a substantial contribution there to in a way that doesn't happen
> here?
>
>       Warmly, Adam
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> *From:* Dr Kate Hudgins <drkatetsi at mac.com>
> *To:* Edward Schreiber <edwschreiber at earthlink.net>
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> *Sent:* Monday, February 16, 2009 10:46 AM
> *Subject:* Re: Facebook
>
> yes OMG it is!  I have reconnected with a childhood friend, a psychodrama
> buddy of 25 years ago, and many many new people in CHina under 30 and many
> of you whom I already know on email and in real life but now I can see your
> photos, hear your voices, see your lives and all bc my 30 year old assistant
> Ashley Florence who some can see on my FB account..said...Kate...come on, we
> have to get you on FB ......and that was two weeks ago...what did I do with
> my time before I had FB??????
>
>  On Feb 14, 2009, at 8:22 PM, Edward Schreiber wrote:
>
>  I had to laugh with Kate's posting of "OMG".
> But what else can be said?  I've ignored many friend's inviting me to join
> Facebook,
> until now.  Just did and within 1/2 I've found/reconnected with friends
> from 20 or more years ago.
> Amazing sociometry unfolding.
>
> Ed
>
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