Facebook

[Edward Schreiber]

Adam,
Instead of this, try it out and see for yourself.
Action (speaks louder than emails).  I am convert.
Ed

On Feb 17, 2009, at 1:15 PM, Adam Blatner wrote:

> Dear all, I'm still wary. The last question is exactly the point:  
> How many minutes a day gets diverted in this direction.
>        As life reorders my priorities, I might imagine a time,  
> perhaps bedridden, where I might want to give this a priority,  
> sustain my socialization and exchange of warm fuzzy strokes using  
> this medium. I am all for people finding their most emotionally  
> supportive networks, and there are trade-offs. But as someone  
> noted, social networks have a strong role demand---translated as  
> people who want and expect you to take the time to check in with  
> them, check out what they've said, consider and respond.
>       One way to think about the target social atom is the people  
> who might be called friends (in that your relations with them are  
> friendly) and yet what amount of time and how often do you want to  
> delegate to this relationship? If you're lonely and wondering if  
> anyone knows you exist or cares---and I've been there when I was  
> younger--- it seems that one can never have too many friends.
>        Role demand---what a great phrase.
>               It gets us thinking--or me, at least---how much time  
> will I be willing to share with whom?
>      Relationships use time as food.
>         And some are close and sustaining (if you're lucky); and  
> some are medium- or not-so-close, but still sustaining in a way.
>             Different kinds of sustaining, too.
>
>         Some of my social needs are satisfied at the medium - 
> cordial -acquaintance level participating in wholesome activities,  
> types of dancing, singing, etc. A few with more conversation, but  
> occasionally, a few more than occasionally,
>
>    There are role demands of neighbors, based on your common  
> concerns or living near each other
>             of extended family, with many variations in levels of  
> tele about this or that aspect, common interest, sometimes only  
> having your kinship and past family history as the commonality    
> mix with various levels of reciprocity
>        e.g., my family is generally not very reaching-out or taking  
> initiative to me, but occasions---weddings, funerals, etc.-- may  
> evoke an invitation...
>              and permutations and nuances are plentiful.
>
>        What about discovering old friends?  Well, there is one I  
> might want to contact, see what became of him; varying degrees--- 
> generally low levels---of interest in others. This may vary with  
> how close those relations were way back...
>
>        But up against all this is the fact that I find my life  
> pleasantly full with edges not-infrequently into overly full. So as  
> I say, I'm wary about new commitments.
>
>          As for the sub-group Ivo and Ed and others talk about--- 
> what would happen or has already begun to happen that would either  
> benefit me or that I could make a substantial contribution there to  
> in a way that doesn't happen here?
>
>       Warmly, Adam
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Dr Kate Hudgins
> To: Edward Schreiber
> Cc: grouptalk Listserv
> Sent: Monday, February 16, 2009 10:46 AM
> Subject: Re: Facebook
>
> yes OMG it is!  I have reconnected with a childhood friend, a  
> psychodrama buddy of 25 years ago, and many many new people in  
> CHina under 30 and many of you whom I already know on email and in  
> real life but now I can see your photos, hear your voices, see your  
> lives and all bc my 30 year old assistant Ashley Florence who some  
> can see on my FB account..said...Kate...come on, we have to get you  
> on FB ......and that was two weeks ago...what did I do with my time  
> before I had FB??????
>
>
> On Feb 14, 2009, at 8:22 PM, Edward Schreiber wrote:
>
>> I had to laugh with Kate's posting of "OMG".
>> But what else can be said?  I've ignored many friend's inviting me  
>> to join Facebook,
>> until now.  Just did and within 1/2 I've found/reconnected with  
>> friends from 20 or more years ago.
>> Amazing sociometry unfolding.
>>
>> Ed
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