sources of tele:

[Adam Blatner]

Re Regina's comment: Here's a different perspective.  My first reaction was, "Of course we have attitudes about objects, color, rhythm, etc."  And some of that may be purely biological or psychological.  But it's also, in part, cultural. 
           (she then gives examples)

Adam Of course. And how you differentiate between psychological and cultural? Do you mean by psychological those factors that are restricted to the behaviors of the family of origin?  I tend to bring the two together very early. 
  
       None of this competes with the idea of the self as a social construction, or the roles. I'm quite open to constructionism. 

My framework, acquired through socialzation from my family, my social class station, my religion and the educational system has led me to value some roles over others and struggle with others still.
          AB: I would add a number of other factors---maybe several score! That's my point! Exploring the basis of our preferences can serve as an important theme in personal development. 
      It need not be done for all preferences, but for ones where you struggle.... 

RS   I, for example, struggle with the role of musician, I think in part because I remember my father yelling at my mother when I practiced piano - the point being that it was painful and a waste of time.  So I'm drawn to music, love to play guitar, sing and write songs but don't because the inner tape that says, "This is a waste of time.  You should be working or learning something of import.  And besides, you're no good at it anyway."  
           AB: Yes, this is good. If you know you like it, you can begin to separate the factors. Which is authentic taste, and which is "because you're supposed to / or not supposed to.
        Another example is X thinks she should like music, but doesn't all that much. So she uses family injunctions as a blame - point. If that were removed (and there would be a lot of resistance here, because the family injunction in this case is a "red herring"), she'd find some other ways to deal with the inner conflict: I really should like and do music. I really don't care that much, and don't want to put in the practice." 
          I'm not saying this has anything to do with you, but that the theme of deeply felt preference is a worthy focus.

RS  And yet, I would agree that there is something very deep with Tele... with what martial artists called the 6th sense - the ability to "read" the safety of a situation, but my sense is that it is something that relates to energy or harmonics rather than attitudes.  So I would like to see more of your thoughts on tele w/ objects, tele w/ roles.
  Peace,    regina  regina sewell, Ph.D.

     I hope the above is helpful. You know that I'm open to further discussion. Warmly, Adam
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