Attachment and supervision

[Ann Hale]

This is great, Marcia. I have been working with something similar where the parenting is categorized as secure, avoidant, anxious or disorganized. Using this, or the system that you use so successfully,  makes sense to me that the supervision, or processing after work can be more tailored to both the individual's learning and offer access to the ways the person is likely to integrate the experience in which they have just engaged, with their trainer, and with their fellow students.  I can remember the days of asking whether the students wanted rigor or support, or a combination of both, and inevitably persons needing support asked for rigor (what they were used to) and those asking for support needed more grounding in principles and options that would enhance their role as auxiliary or director (rigor). I think asking for the type of parenting is brilliant.  Well done, and thanks for kicking off the discussion.
Ann Hale
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  Dear Anne, et al, 

  I have found a new way to supervise a trainee director in action. Before they begin with the protagonist I say to the director, I would like to talk with you about the way I will supervise you . I would like to know what kind of parenting you had. Did you have a dominant, submissive, or abandoning mother ? What was she like towards you in giving you direction or help. What was your father like? Who was the dominant one between the two parents? The reason I am asking is that I don't want to repeat what you don't need and I would like to give you the kind of supervision that you may need." If they say, " My mother was overcritical, and dominant", I say, "Ok, how about I don't interrupt you until you feel you need help. Let's keep the relationship open and you can ask me anything,  as a supervisor,  when you feel you need it." If they say, " My mother was never around, abandoned me or never guided me, I say, " Ok, I could double you when I might have a suggestion, or/ and I could remain close enough by asking you what you are thnking, what you might like to do next, and keep an open contact but you'll know I am with you and guiding you when you need help.  " Something like that, I do. It has changed the quality of my supervision and the students report it is more spot on re: what they need from me, as supervisor/trainer.

   Marcia  
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  Date: Sat, 4 Apr 2009 11:25:29 
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